March 9, 2008

Tandem Nursing

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Question: What is tandem nursing?

Tandem nursing is when two siblings of different ages breastfeed together. It generally comes about because the older baby was too young to wean, and continued nursing throughout a pregnancy, although it is possible for a baby to temporarily stop nursing, only to start again after the new baby is born.

Question: How hard is tandem nursing?

All of my children have shared the breasts with a sibling, and I have 5 kids, the youngest being 5 months. That means I’ve been nursing for 7.5 years. It is a challenge, to be sure! But it is equally rewarding.

Nursing a toddler is different than nursing a newborn, but that is actually good news when a new baby is born!

Question: Is tandem nursing more challenging than nursing a small baby and having a toddler who is already weaned?

In some ways, yes, and in some ways, no. Yes, because you have to juggle two hungry babies with their own nursing needs and styles, and you are literally going to make more milk… But no, because tandem nursing means quiet naptimes together on the big bed (Peace on earth!) Plus, tandem nursing means that engorgement is LESS of an issue. After birth and for the first 3-4 months, breasts can get really heavy with milk, and the older baby can soften and prepare the nipple for a hungry baby who would otherwise be unable to nurse. (It’s either that, or express and waste extra milk. I had to do that with my first)

Question: What was your biggest tandem nursing challenge?

Well, worrying if my youngest was going to get enough milk. I weaned my first child partly because of this concern when my second born was about 8 months old. (and I apparently got pregnant immediately, as a result) However, I generally feel less overextended than I would if I didn’t tandem nurse.

Question: Does Tandem nursing make you feel “sucked dry?”

With or without a new baby, toddlers can make Mommy feel that way. So I wouldn’t say that tandem nursing is so much to blame. Nursing a toddler is a whole different experience than nursing a small baby. You have to balance the needs, desire, and will of the baby against that of the mother. It is important for the success of a tandem breastfeeding relationship that the mother feels that she can put certain limits on the relationship with her toddler if she needs to. However, if you can do that, it is a wonderful and rewarding experience.

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May 30, 2010

victoria @ 7:41 pm

Does nursing an older baby interfere with the production of colostrum at the time of the new baby’s birth?

July 20, 2011

MELISSA @ 10:49 am

IT DOESNT AFFECT IT AT ALL FOR ME IT WAS HARD BECAUSE I KNEW MY NEW BABY NEEDED IT BUT Y OLDER CHILD STILL WANTED TO NURSE BUT I WASNT PRODUCING ANY MILK. I JUST HAD MY BABY THREE MONTHS AGO AND I WAS WONDERING THE SAME THING BEFORE HE WAS BORN.

October 12, 2012
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December 3, 2013

Lauren Davis @ 7:20 pm

I have a 10 month old and I am having a newborn in March. I have a few concerns and questions, does nursing while pregnant seem more tiring and difficult than tandem nursing? My older baby enjoys switching breasts a lot, was wondering how that may work out after new baby gets here. Does older baby tend to want to nurse more often with tandem nursing? What are some things a tandem nursing mom can do to occupy an older baby while nursing newborn? Comments appreciated.

Thanks

January 6, 2014

kristine @ 10:10 am

hi to all from greece :) I am breastfeeding a 1 month old little girl, and a 18 months old baby boy…It was an interesting experience to breastfeed throughout pregnancy, which was ok, except the fact that from the 5th month onwards the milk supply was less, and the breasts very sensitive..I was so many nights saying “this is the last night I’m breastfeeding my baby boy..” and the next night saying the same…until the night of giving birth to my baby girl arrived…yes, thats right, I was breastfeeding 2 hours before I went to the hospital lol….I had milk to feed the newborn straight away, and next day that changed to colostrum, and 2 days back to normal…now tandem feeding, they both enjoy it…and me too seeing they are happy:)

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